Step 1: We (Parents) Must Open Our Eyes
Sexual abuse is such a tough topic. Isn’t it? It is hard to think about and it is hard to write about. It makes me want to turn my head and say, “Leave me alone. I don’t want to even think about this topic and my kid(s)” I get it. Really, I do. I have often felt in my life that the darker topics feel too much to look at. And really, it seems as though life is moving along. In my week, I have baseball practice, basketball practice, dance practice, and then all the games that come with all the practice. I have homework to help with, I have laundry, I have work, and I have to pick up from all the mess. When is there time to really stop and think about sexual abuse much less anything else? And yet, you are here reading and I am here writing because we can’t not think about protecting our kids.
So let’s just say it. It is hard to stop. It is hard to let dark heavy topics come on in and sit with us at the end of our day. But, the truth is that in looking at tough topics we have a chance to shine light. And if we shine light into these dark topics we start to get a handle on what we want to do.
I grew up playing basketball. What I mean by that is I was at a basketball game when I was 3 days old. I have been to more basketball games, been at more practices and traveled to more tournaments then most people can even imagine. My dad is a basketball coach as are both of my brothers. I played basketball in high school and college. What I have learned from years of getting to know this sport is the best way to stop your opponent is to know their offense. If you know what they do to score points then you can set up a defense in order to win. That is what motivates me to take on sexual abuse. If we know the perpetrators “offense” then we can set-up a great defense. In basketball, you can do the same offense and defense for every team. But when you play a really good team, they will have studied your offense. So you can’t just hope to beat them. You must study them too.
A Predator Is Looking For Parents Who Aren’t Looking
Shielding Innocence is really here to do just that. We study the offense of the predator. And we give it to you. Then you implement what we teach you into your lives. I will give you one aspect of the “offense” of a sexual predator. He is looking for parents with their eyes shut and fingers in their ears. Step one you have already begun just because you are here. You are looking and listening. But don’t do it alone. Ask another mom to come and check this stuff out. Then talk about it. We can shield our kids the best when we do it together.